REPOST: Woman to Woman: You’ve got the power

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October 22nd, 2011 - By Rashana A. Hooks

 

I know Beyonce told you that girls ruled the world but I’m telling you that you have the ability to rule your own world. You see many of us forget that we have the power to create the life we want. We have total control of our decisions, choices, actions and behaviors. Anything we want we can have – you just have to believe it and go after it.

Ladies, I can’t stress this enough – stop giving your power away to others by allowing them to dictate the circumstances of your life. We have a bad habit of releasing our power and letting our emotions rule, especially when it comes to men and relationships. Our hearts take over our heads and we lose our minds (literally). Somehow we lose our position as “King of Me” and become “King of We”. We lose sight of our individuality and allow someone else to be the cause and effect of our pain and unhappiness. We forget that we have a choice to say yes or no to anything. The truth is you can’t blame anyone else for the state of your being. And you know what else? If you don’t want to deal with drama, you can always leave the relationship. If you don’t want to be somebody’s second choice, you can be somebody’s first. If you don’t want to struggle and live in poverty, go educate yourself for better job opportunities.

 You don’t have to remain in any situation that is not providing you with your needs.

I’m still not sure why we are afraid of change but comfortable with complacency….smh

Guess what? You are in charge of your own happiness.  Someone can add to your joy but no one can give it solely or take it away from you. If you ever feel lost in any situation or begin to feel like you don’t have any control, remember that I told you woman to woman – you’ve got the power.

Want to talk to me Woman to Woman or have a topic you would like addressed? Email me at rhooks@madamenoire.com or you can follow me on twitter @rashanahooks

REPOST: Woman to Woman: Stop Settling....

This is a great article that i wish i could copy and paste (& link back of course). for all women, please don't sell yourself short. even I am guilty of settling for a man, a situation, and even lower my standards just so i could have somebody i could foolishly believe i could call my own. as a single woman now, i realize that singleness isn't a punishment, it's an oppertunity. who wants to be with someone who doesn't have all their ish together? who want's to be with someone who truely CANNOT live without their mate? while some circumstances are understandable, you should never, never, never ever never lose yourself when loving somebody else. you deserve the world, let him seek you, because even the bible says "Proverbs - Chapter 18:22 "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.". how many relationships have you be in where you "found" a man, and it actually led to a long lasting, pleasant, relationship? that's not to say it can't happen, but let's be realistic. the Good Man god wants you to have will come, soon as you stop messing around with the knuckleheads and "settling" for less than what you deserve. wanna keep your man, just to say "he messing around with them hoes, but he comes home to me???" foolish chick, let them hoes have him. while we on the topic, how about having children wiith your "boyfriend"- then crying foul with it ends and goes from sweet to sh*t?? how many relationships have worked out and people are still together after having a baby with no engagement or wedding in sight??? don't worry i'll wait. again, there are rare, and i mean rare cases. i could go on and on, but i want  you to read this article, read, comprehend, and apply ladies: CLICK THE LINK BELOW::::


Woman to Woman: STOP SETTLING...

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